How women are presented in AHWOSG
Women are frequently presented as weak. "She can't hold it tight enough". Dave uses the pronoun 'she' instead of naming his mother, this suggests that in this moment his mother is irrelevant and Dave's sole focus is on the nosebleed. The contraction 'can't' is quite dysphemistic, Dave feels the need to point out her physical inabilities, not only is she ill but she can't even hold her nose properly. "So now I relieve her", the conjunction 'now' draws attention to the statement and put seven more emphasis on the pronoun 'I'. This quote could be foreshadowing, right now Dave is relieving her of holding her nose but soon he will relieve her of her duties as a parent and take over by looking after Toph.
Dave shows he has quite a dated, sexist view of women. "I want Toph to be her friend and make her happy" There is emphasis on 'I' which suggests that Dave sees this as a selfless, kind gesture. It also shows he is egocentric. "I want" demonstrates Dave's need to feel in control as he hasn’t had any control over the rest of his life. Dave wants Toph to feel secure, superior even by making this girl happy. Dave is extremely judgmental of women throughout the book. "Like a horse's tail", "sad dark eyes". Dave dehumanizes these women and is very shallow towards them. He judges others to deflect others judging him "people know, they look".
Dave sees women as objects. Throughout the book he gives positive and negative changes 'women are either ugly or attractive', Dave doesn’t seek personality and often categorizes women under typical stereotypes. "I expected flirting" The declarative 'I expected' suggests that Dave is always expecting this of other people like he feels he is owed after what happened to his parents. The use of short sentence suggests that his expectations were short lived. Dave's grammar also displays his immaturity towards the subject of women, "I'm gonna ask her out", Dave doesn't use proper grammar instead he uses an abbreviation almost as if he can't be bothered to say the sentence properly, which shows just how much he feels for this woman. "I was looking to score", this is in the lexical field of sex which links to the earlier quote of Dave being "virile". "I honestly thought", the adverb 'honestly' shows Eggers is looking back and judging himself for being so naïve. "But by and large they're ugly", use of adjective 'ugly' suggests he is being defensive, making himself superior by setting himself apart from the other.
Dave's view on women has changed slightly since his parents' death. "We didn’t really want to sleep there anyway, the way it smelled, like my father". Dave, ambiguously, implies that him and Kirsten used to have sex on his parents bed, now however they choose to go to the bathroom. "No, this is good I said, undressing her", although Dave wanting to have sex with Kirsten in his parents' bathroom straight after his father's death is slightly odd, it seems that now it is more of a comfort, a way for Dave to turn his emotions towards something else. At the open house, although Dave still has some shallow views of women, he seems to look for mother qualities in the women, which indicates that he is looking for someone to fill the whole that his mother left when she died. The fact that Dave doesn't find anyone "I am disheartened by the lack of possibility" suggests that subconsciously he knows nobody could ever replace his mother.